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The Thought That Counts
Yesterday my hubby bought me a very groovy steam cleaner because I've been stressing about the carpets being dirty. We had thought of hiring one of those services to come do it for us. But after pondering it a bit, I told Daniel that soon we will have another little boy in the house on top of the one we have (not to mention the hubby) and we hope to have a dog in the near future so it would be more beneficial to just buy one. He took me up on that.
We went to the store and found one that I fell in love with. We paid for it. We headed for the car when at that point I realized I had forgot to buy some cleaner to actually put in the steam cleaner. No duh to me. So I headed back to get a bottle and I was to meet him in jewelry to pay.
When I come back, what do I see? Him looking at rings. Specifically diamond rings of the wedding variety. Of course I was a bit confused.
You see, our wedding was a bit of a quickie one and we just bought a cheap set of rings for both of us. We paid $99 for my set that is white gold with a little gold filigree and a teeny tiny diamond. Like so tiny when the ring gets dirty, you can't see it. But I love the ring. It's my ring that I was given by him when he married me. No matter what, I will always treasure it. In fact, last year when I couldn't wear it for awhile, I was all discombobulated without it.
Daniel has always talked about buying me a 'real' ring because I deserve it. What woman doesn't want to hear that? Of course he'd like to buy my 'dream' ring but I'll never allow it because it'd cost too much.
He had one picked out yesterday and it was gorgeous. But a marquis cut. I told him I'd kill it the first time I reached into the washer. I'm terribly hard on my jewelry. Anyway, after some looking and what not, he found a princess cut 1/4 carat simple stone (think engagement ring) for $300. He actually wanted to buy it right there!! I don't know where he's been stashing money!
I was a bit overwhelmed because I'm scared to own a real diamond of that size! But it felt so good that he feels this is so important for me to have a 'real' ring. After some discussion I convinced him to wait until after the baby comes so we can get a true sizing of my finger-right now I'm all poofy and swollen so it's hard to get an accurate read. I also told him because of the style he'd have to buy a simple band to go with so he has that picked out too.
I just love when my husband does these things because they are always so out of the blue and random (to me) but so very important to him. It's not the money involved, in fact if he bought a cheap-o ring with a fake CZ stone, I'd be just as happy because it's the thought that counts. I can also think of many things that we could that money on more efficiently.
But how can you turn away from the face of your husband that just shows how much he loves you and has that big goofy grin on his face and the jeweler is looking at the two of us like we are dorks but smiling because in the end, it's just a man wanting to give something to the woman he loves.
It was the highlight of my day and I still smile a little when I think of it.
We went to the store and found one that I fell in love with. We paid for it. We headed for the car when at that point I realized I had forgot to buy some cleaner to actually put in the steam cleaner. No duh to me. So I headed back to get a bottle and I was to meet him in jewelry to pay.
When I come back, what do I see? Him looking at rings. Specifically diamond rings of the wedding variety. Of course I was a bit confused.
You see, our wedding was a bit of a quickie one and we just bought a cheap set of rings for both of us. We paid $99 for my set that is white gold with a little gold filigree and a teeny tiny diamond. Like so tiny when the ring gets dirty, you can't see it. But I love the ring. It's my ring that I was given by him when he married me. No matter what, I will always treasure it. In fact, last year when I couldn't wear it for awhile, I was all discombobulated without it.
Daniel has always talked about buying me a 'real' ring because I deserve it. What woman doesn't want to hear that? Of course he'd like to buy my 'dream' ring but I'll never allow it because it'd cost too much.
He had one picked out yesterday and it was gorgeous. But a marquis cut. I told him I'd kill it the first time I reached into the washer. I'm terribly hard on my jewelry. Anyway, after some looking and what not, he found a princess cut 1/4 carat simple stone (think engagement ring) for $300. He actually wanted to buy it right there!! I don't know where he's been stashing money!
I was a bit overwhelmed because I'm scared to own a real diamond of that size! But it felt so good that he feels this is so important for me to have a 'real' ring. After some discussion I convinced him to wait until after the baby comes so we can get a true sizing of my finger-right now I'm all poofy and swollen so it's hard to get an accurate read. I also told him because of the style he'd have to buy a simple band to go with so he has that picked out too.
I just love when my husband does these things because they are always so out of the blue and random (to me) but so very important to him. It's not the money involved, in fact if he bought a cheap-o ring with a fake CZ stone, I'd be just as happy because it's the thought that counts. I can also think of many things that we could that money on more efficiently.
But how can you turn away from the face of your husband that just shows how much he loves you and has that big goofy grin on his face and the jeweler is looking at the two of us like we are dorks but smiling because in the end, it's just a man wanting to give something to the woman he loves.
It was the highlight of my day and I still smile a little when I think of it.
3 Reviews:
awwww! How nice! About you being scared, you reminded me of my own engagement story. My husband proposed to me while snowboarding. We were at the summit and he stopped me, took off his snowboard then his gloves. He reached in and pulled out the box and proposed. He put it on my finger and we kissed, etc. Here is our convo:
T: "okay, put it back in the box"
N: "no"
T: "No, seriously, put it back in."
N: "Seriously. No."
T: "I don't want you to lose it!"
N: "It fits! See?" and I proceed to shake my hand back and forth.
My ring is a little over 1/2 carat and cost a few thousand. I dont' think my husband had ever spent that much money EVER. The look of terror on his face was too cute. But it didn't fly off and it was safe.
So to him, it's a done deal, just waiting until after baby. That is so sweet - and you are right. It's not the RING that is important - it's what it means to him. Wonderful story!
My engagement ring is relatively large (big for the people I know and our life now, but half the size of his circle back in Illinois). At first I was upset that he'd spent so much, but then thought, he's not going to be buying me any more rings, ever (I told him not to), and I wear it every day, so in the grand scheme of life, it's not all that much money. And I like to look at it, and think of him going to the jewelry store and looking until he found the perfect one.
Your husband is very thoughtful and sweet. Once in a while I read story like this and thought to myself, that is the way I want to treat my wife too. Just this morning, I was talking to my friend if he has already officially proposed to his wife and he said no. To him, what is most important is the lifetime commitment to his wife to be and not just in the special moment.
He further told me that he had heard of so many cases of friends who have gotten marry a few years back but now on the verge of divorce and that was the reason why he told me it's more important in the lifetime vow. Of course when the inspiration comes, he will propose officially.
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